I feel if I am not the abusive person right now, I am part of the flying monkeys club. I am an enabler. I don't know how to help the oppressed because I have been neutral. When you are neutral, you are part of the problem. You are in a way on the side of the oppressor. I wish everyone the best of luck because I am not sure anymore how I can help. I don't know which side I am on. I maybe part of the problem but it's better to observe things first before choosing a side. I don't want to help anyone who will turn out to be an enabler too.